When You’ve Just Finished “The Lost Daughter” …

And Gone Right Into “The Luminaries”…

It makes you think about the fact you were born a woman; the world has historically been programmed to despise you, and there’s not a goddamned thing you can do about it.

We owe it all to that ridiculous piece of historical fiction that everyone has taken so seriously for the last few thousand years, The Bible, that tells the tale of A GOD (we don’t know whose GOD, specifically) creating the world, making MAN first (sure, because it’s easier to make something that sticks out first rather than something that caves in, one would guess…) and then making woman by ROBBING MAN of a fucking rib. Seriously? You couldn’t come up with something better than that? Good God people.


Talk about having three strikes against you before you even get started. Then woman became the Temptress, the one that got man to eat the forbidden fruit, the human doing the bidding of the Devil on Earth … sure. Seems legit. Blame the human that “stole a fucking rib” from man. Why not?

From that moment forward, most societies viewed women as slaves. As something that should serve man after creating such a horrible outcome in the Garden. Women were not allowed to own their own destiny, for if they did; they were under an evil spell and not following the word of God or being obedient wife servants.

This ridiculous myth has been perpetuated over thousands of years thanks to religion. Cavemen may have been the hunters, but it was the women of that era that were the gatherers, the nurturers, the people that held the clans together and ensured safety in numbers. Men had only two purposes, provide progeny and meat.

Religion drew us into a paternal society. Women had no place in it. Not until recently, anyway. And even now it’s still very limited.

The strongest women are still viewed as a threat to the most religious sects in both Christianity and Judaism. If they do not want to be obedient wives and produce children, they are worthless. They have no value.

Since the beginning of time, women have wanted and been very capable of doing great things. They have, however, been limited, by much less intelligent and capable, men. Any threat and suddenly something new pops up. For example, Lilith, made of filth and dust prior to Eve, she would transform into men to impregnate women to explain away “mysterious pregnancies”. There were others but she was probably the most well-known. The later on we had Witchcraft. Burn them at the stake! How many witches were there? Too many. God forbid you grew up near the water and learned to swim or had the innate ability to float, you were seriously fucked. Burn, you would.

Cleopatra was an evil whore. It goes on and on and on ….

The film “The Lost Daughter” finally creates the ability for us to have a public exchange about something that SO MANY women have felt but are forbidden to speak about …. the fact that they were not born to be a Mom. And if you fall within that category, you are NOT supposed to ever mention it. Never. Not in small groups. Not out loud. Not ever.

Sure, women are born (for the most part) with the ability to produce children, but not all women are born with the innate ability to be mothers. It’s not something that always comes naturally. We act like that’s a problem. Why, WHY, is that a problem?

We have known, witnessed, watched, and waited while men have run off on their families for centuries. Why is it so much more egregious when a woman finds that she needs to take a break? When she discovers, or comes to term with the fact that she’s NOT, perhaps, a natural mother; and needs to leave the situation to ensure the sanity of bother her and her children?

Men are rarely held accountable for leaving. Women are ALWAYS held responsible, and that shit never goes away. Never. But, why? Why are women judged so much harsher than men? I want that question answered and then I want it fixed.

I was not blessed with the ability to bear children, though I was pregnant 6 times. I wasn’t born a girl that felt she was that person who was put on Earth to be a mother, but I also never believed I wouldn’t have a family. You’re kind of raised to believe that’s what happens, you get married, have kids, raise a family … that’s just the way it goes.

But here we are.

It’s 2022 and people still believe that women aren’t great leaders. When in positions of power, it’s because they “failed up” or it’s because they’re bitches that no one wants to deal with. And when I say people, I mean men AND women. It’s ridiculous. Absurd. Obtuse. Outdated, Fucked up. And wrong.

Today was actually Holocaust Remembrance Day. I hope that fewer people will one day stand up to proclaim that it didn’t happen, than those who ask us to never forget. I also hope that one day we, as a society, can stand up to say that women are precisely equal to men, without any kind of ifs, ands: or buts about it.

No asterisks, please. We’re just women.

We’re not Pete fucking Rose.